Let it snow, let it snow, let it snow. Christmas carols ring-out in my kitchen, the car, and the mall, and it’s makes me wanna hunker down at home with warm leggings, my bean, and a Keurig stocked and loaded with Chai tea. Perhaps make sure we’ve got a candle burning? Something wintry? And yes, yes, yes – we’re gonna need a Kindle loaded with NYT best-sellers.
A Keurig stocked with Chai tea and a Kindle brimming with NYT best-sellers. That might be ALL this mama wants for Christmas. ‘Cause here’s the thing – I could use a day in bed. I’m envisioning Santa babysitting while I Netflix-binge between naps and reading Click’n Moms and Southern Living Magazine. And guess what? I’ve been a very good girl. Let’s make this nap-party happen.
Fest before rest. That’s the motto of the season, no? Coupled with renovating the home, keeping after my wild toddler, and hosting a family of ten, this holiday could be get – let’s see – chaotic. And so, I’m thinking of small ways to embrace the chaos – let the milk spill, per se – and enjoy the season. I’m asking myself: what doesn’t need to get done? Can anything wait on the to-do list? Is there something that doesn’t need cleaning or tending? What’s most important, and what can I simply do without?
The floors don’t need to shine and the cookies don’t need to be homemade. I do, however, need to read The Alphabet Book over and over (Max’s favorite), make it to 5pm yoga, and attend a holiday party with my book club. Accept and let-go. Decline and make-do. For me, the season (let’s call it my twenties) of yes-yes-yes is slipping away. In its place? The things that matter most. A bit of focus, if you will.
Pretty words, but perhaps easier said than done, no? If you’re anything like me, you’re programmed to work your way down the to do list: buy milk, get contact solution, re-paint the bathroom, take Max to music class, send Christmas cards, take Kinzie to the vet, get the oil changed, make dentist appointments – check, check, check. The checks feel so good. I mean, hey-ho-hey, we’re adulting here! But what of it? Sure it all needs to get done, and yes, you might be the only one to do it, but what about a pause? How do we make the busy-work feel life giving?
And so, there it is: I’m going to add ‘down-time with the family’ and ‘forget tasks for an hour’ to my to-do list. Perhaps then the check-check-check will come with more memories, snuggles, and laughter.
As for the times I’ve gotta get the hard-stuff done? ‘Cause let’s be real, no one else is gonna get my tires changed and clean the toilets. Well, Imma try and make it fun two ways 1) recruiting family & friends (make a date night outta getting the tires changed) and 2) be present (err, use traffic jams to review the alphabet with max and call my grandma).
Is this ambitious wishful thinking? Maybe, perhaps, but it’s worth a shot. Make the to-do list more enjoyable. I’m on it. My starting point? Inviting mama over for tea when it’s time to potty train Max. Tea and laughter for her, and help cleaning babies // floors // diapers for me. A win for all.
PS – I didn’t put pen to pad for a few months (or fingers to keys) and, let me tell you, I felt it like Olivia Munn ending things with Jordan Rodgers (you’ll never do better! Get him back!) No, worse, I felt it like Olivia calling quits on Jordan and then discovering him D.O.O.K. (down on one knee) on Facebook with, IDK, Olivia Palermo. The new couple got 5,000 likes. It hurt. It really hurt. And so, I’ll be back. Soon. Promise.